Just talked today to a pretty sharp sales guy, and it was really clear to both of us that family and personal relationship skills determine success in sales. If that is true, and it is in general, trouble in a marriage can limit a sale person's performance. The error most guys (and women too) make is that they try to separate the two worlds.
I'm not talking about boundaries, which are good, I'm talking about splitting apart slightly to deal with frustration. If Dr. Fritz Perls was correct, then when we deal with frustrated desires, we discover areas where we could stand to improve. Putting this off for sales and other professionals adds to the pain and frustration.
Unfortunately there is much truth to the cliche, "Where ever you go, there you are." You are who you are, whether you're at home or at work. Trying to split off feelings from one area causes them to crop up in other unwelcome areas. That's the path to incongruous behavior, struggle and poor sales results.
Another poor choice is to shut down all feelings. That's the biggest mistake in a marriage and in professional life. What is life worth without passion? Why get up and go to work unless you're looking forward to something?
Now, unless it's obvious that learning something new will improve the bottom line, and smart sales people already know that, for most people it just feels better to avoid the situation and suffer.
That's why learning in a private coaching program is one of the best solutions. A more affordable choice is a workshop or class with valuable information and learning.
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